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Suriving Motherhood and being a working mom

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Summer is here and for all working moms, life just got more complicated, especially if you don't have thousands of dollars to poor into camps, and clubs, and more. But as working moms, we have to find that balance of working and spending time with our kids. After working with thousands of people and especially women over the last 20 years I have found some great tips to share that I found success using them: Don't get stuck consumed in work I have found the happiest and most successful working moms balance life in many areas, not just kids and work they integrate in time with friends, community events. hobbies and even have time to consider their health. If all you do is work, work, work and then do kid time you will burn out quickly. You need time for yourself, your friends, and so much more. Find the balance! Ask yourself, will anything change if I finish this tonight or tomorrow morning? Usually, the answer is no, but often we women are so consumed with being the best that w

How to Negotiate Like a Woman not a Man

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Confessions of a Working Mom Negotiation and conflict when I was younger always give me a stomach ache. As soon as someone would say I need to talk to you. I would sit there, go over and over in my mind...what did I do, what did I do wrong, then I would get called in to be told that I got the employee of the month award. And I would always think to myself why do I always go to the negative.? Why can't I see my worth? I would never think maybe they want to talk to me about the great job I am doing. The "what did I do wrong" mindset had to change. I started to look at myself and think, I am going to make myself a commodity they can't afford to lose. I started to look at myself as an expert and carry myself in that way. I walked into rooms like I owned them and once I changed that mindset; that I was worthy to sit at the table and experienced enough to not just sit at the table but run the table. You have to have this mentality if you are going to be able to negotiate an

Is your significant other your glass ceiling?

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  Is your significant other your glass ceiling? Over the last 8 months, I have had countless conversations with close girlfriends, and even women I hardly know about how the pandemic is affecting them. In fact, many of these women have had to quit their jobs, take leave, or scale back on their work to homeschool their children. Due to my husband's job, I homeschooled the kids from March to June. I moved my work schedule to 8pm at night till 1 or 2 in the morning as the homeschool took up most of the day and then I had to take the kids to get some outside time and still do all the other household chores. My husband has done everything in his power to lessen the burden but I did have more flexibility in my schedule to do this so that is why it was me. Had it been the opposite he would have done the same thing. But several women I talked to who are married to wonderful men who love them, are not willing to jump in and give their wives the support they need for their workload. Many hus

Is multi-tasking a Myth?

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I teach a class where the first module always has students review a video from a man about multi-tasking and how it is a myth and that people can’t do this. I find this very hard to believe. Why because I am a time management guru and I’ll just be honest as women who have regularly written on proven research that women hold close to 70-90% of the household duties and as well as their own work duties. So as a man is preaching to me in this video about management he leaves out some key things like what do you do if you have a child on your lap while trying to do your remote work or who helps with your children while you have to do a conference call cause you can't afford to get a babysitter. There are just many factors in the world we live in and the multi-tasking that has to happen. How many of us women have had a baby in one arm bouncing them while stirring a pot of cooking food and talking on the phone. That is multi-tasking at its best and yes, we are doing it all at the sa

Confessions of a working mom who survied homeschooling!

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Confessions of a Working Mom Who Survived Homeschool As we all know we had a major shift happen in our lives 10 or is it 12 weeks ago. I am honestly starting to lose track. But this all started when the country started to deal with this Coronavirus. As a full time working mom who runs three companies, a traveling conference, and a college professor, I was suddenly hit with some big issues when I was notified kids were going to be home and we would be homeschooling them. I shuddered at the idea of this. I know most of you are thinking, Julie you have a doctorate degree, you're a college professor, come on, this is a walk in the park. Well, ladies, I kid you not it is not a walk in the park and many of us found that out quickly. I suddenly found myself trying to manage screen time and help teach my son math and my daughter how to write a decent essay while trying to interpret the teacher's lesson. Then I was trying to figure out how to deal with all my work. I am a big o

Superbowl Half Time Show Empowering or Degrading?

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                                                                                            My Daughter Abby carrying the football at                                                                                                 at a Jen Welter Girls Football camp   I have been getting countless emails after the Superbowl about my thoughts on the Halftime show. I had women who thought it was an amazing performance and other women thought this set us back in the women's movement because of how over-sexualized it was. I spent the last couple days listening and reading, doing my research on these two performers and here is my take on it. When I first heard the performers were Shakira and Jlo I knew the show would not be age-appropriate for my 11-year-old daughter, the music alone and the words talk about many things my innocent daughter would be clueless so I knew I wasn't going to let you her watch the live show. Let me step back for a moment and talk about footbal

Does your body and looks affect how you are treated in the workplace?

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I have always been very aware of my body. Growing up, I was growing very fast, so I was taller than most boys, super skinny, and no boobs in sight. Boys didn't think it was cool that I was taller than them and they made fun of me not having boobs. So I was made fun of for being too skinny. Who would think that was possible. As I got into college and played college sports, I was beginning to bulk up and suddenly was a walking muscle which soon the boys didn't like that I was so "buff" (my thoughts how can I win too skinny, to buff) I didn't have some sexy body like on TV. Then as I went on to get married and have kids, my body totally changed; I got hips, boobs the total women's body and I  had a baby stretch marks and more. Once again, since I was not use to having this type of body, I found myself again feeling very insecure about my body. Since I had kids later in life my body wasn't bouncing back like if I was in my 20s I actually had my son